Thursday, May 24, 2012

20 May 2012.. Isa's debut at Cold Storage Kids Run

Before the run.. we walked from Marina Sq to the Padang..



While waiting for run to start, response for the Orange Sunshine run was so overwhelming that we were the 3rd out of 5th wave.


On your mark..


Get Set!


Go!
Papa Ray and Isa went zooming off and I secretly filtered to the side lane..


and I saw this little girl near the finishing line..
such an interesting sight.
Wonder if Ms pinu will be like her?


End of race.



What a tiring day.
Not forgetting I had Zumba on the same day at 3.30pm.
Please dont ask me how exhausted I am. :)
But a very fulfiling day indeed.

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

17th May.. afternoon program


So after the parent teacher meeting, we came here after lunch.
Nice and cosy place they have there.
And of cos not forgetting to thank Auntie Marina for her hospitality.
I am so glad Isa enjoyed himself :)

For further details: Please contact Marina at
Art Sense
318 Tanglin Place #01-37
Phoenix Park 
Singapore 247979
Tel: 6733 6435
























17th May 2012.. Morning program

Last thursday, I went to Isa's school to meet his teacher (s) for the annual parent teacher session.
Here are some snapshots of his work in school.








Verdict of:
English teacher: Isa is a bright boy who likes to shares his knowledge with his friends but at times can be too enthusiastic about giving away answers to his friends. Advanced learner for his age. Takes pride in his work.

Mandarin teacher: Bad temper and has to be discipline him using soft approach. Needs to improve on his word recognition more. Tends to be talkative in class. 

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

You are still on our mind..

While driving home one day, I was simply intrigued by this sight n snapped this picture (yes while driving but please don't ask Mr TP treat me to tea).

The beauty of dusk always captivates my heart cos he left us one day at dusk.

Hello beanie. Papa n I know you are right up there with Him. We just wanna tell you we love you n though we wish we are by your side but we know you are in better hands with Him.

The tears had dried, the pain is gone but some memories do not fade. Some day we will tell meimei of this brave person who is with God right now.

Love
Papa, mama, korkor n meimei :)

Monday, May 14, 2012

Crying once, crying twice..

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Ms Pinu just fell sick.. again.
We sorta suspected that this time round she got the virus from Ray papa, as she got it from me two weeks ago but the virus went away after a couple of days. But scary to say, the current condition of her stuffy nose and crying got worst.
And I really meant worst. So much for an aching left arm.

Here is a typical crying session:
She can wail.. for a continuous 10 minutes. 
We tried cradling her and gave her a pacifier. Bottled fed her with water. Walked around and talked to her in a low tone voice. Rolled my eyes one thousand times while doing all the above. Technically speaking, when you thought that nothing works, her crying will stop suddenly.

One of the methods that works so far is a milk feed. But we can only do it when its near her feeding time. And best of all, she cannot be medicated cos she is too young! 
So guess we just have to try to be more patience with her while praying for her virus to go away.

Saturday, May 12, 2012

Happy Mother's Day to all..




Just for you, my Mama..

I Love You 
&
Happy Mother's Day!


You are my mother and my friend,
Which is unusual.
Somehow our characters must blend:
Your wisdom and my will.
I turn, and you are there for me;
I speak, you understand.
I feel cared for, but also free;
You lead but don't command.
I'm fortunate that I was born
To someone just like you;
I love you, not just as my mom,
But for what you are and do.

(source: "http://www.poemsforfree.com/youar2.html")

Wednesday, May 09, 2012

v16.8 vs v6.8..

Double the height, (more than) double the weight..

Enthusiastic kor kor vs stunned look mei mei..

Sunday, May 06, 2012

Parenting styles..


Before I began my writing on the above topic, here was how our gathering for today came about. Some weeks ago, I started a group chat with 3 other of my secondary school girl friends. I would say it was quite an interesting start as our first thought was to have a gathering of some sort for us since it had been eons since we had come together. There were 11 adults and 7 children in total in my humble flat today. Imagine the chaos. I was expecting worst but guess God had planned a smooth and wonderful gathering for us all. Here is the best picture taken from all (literally) of the children who were in at my flat earlier today.

Anyway back to the topic: what is your parenting style?

Today, so many of came together and our obvious parenting styles reveal all about us and our children. 

According to Wikipedia search, here are some of the common parenting styles that we adopt:
  • Authoritative Parenting
Authoritative parents, also called 'assertive democratic' or 'balanced' parent, is characterized by a child-centered approach that holds high expectations of maturity. Authoritative parents can understand how their child are feeling and teach them how to regulate feelings. They often help their children to find appropriate outlets to solve problems. Authoritative parents encourage children tot be independent but still places controls and limits on their actions.
  • Authoritarian Parenting

Authoritarian parenting, also called strict parenting, is characterized by high expectations of conformity and compliance to parental rules and directions, while allowing little open dialogue between parent and child. Authoritarian parenting is a restrictive, punitive parenting style in which parents make their children to follow their directions and to respect their work and effort. Authoritarian parents expect much of their child but generally do not explain the reasoning for the rules or boundaries.
  • Indulgent Parenting

Indulgent parenting, also called permissive, nondirective or lenient, is characterized as having few behavioral expectations for the child. "Indulgent parenting is a style of parenting in which parents are very involved with their children but place few demands or controls on them." Parents are nurturing and accepting, and are very responsive to the child's needs and wishes. Indulgent parents do not require children to regulate themselves or behave appropriately. This may result in creating spoiled brats or "spoiled sweet" children depending on the behavior of the children.
  • Neglectful Parenting

Neglectful parenting is also called uninvolved, detached, dismissive or hands-off. The parents are low in warmth and control, are generally not involved in their child's life, are disengaged, undemanding, low in responsiveness, and do not set limits. Neglectful parenting can also mean dismissing the children's emotions and opinions. Parents are emotionally unsupportive of their children, but will still provide their basic needs. Provide basic needs meaning: food, housing, and toiletries or money for the prementioned. Neglectful parenting can stem from a variety of reasons, this includes the parent's prioritizing themselves, lack of encouragement on the parent's parts, financial stresses, lack of support and addiction to harmful substances.



Being an Asian, I would boldly say that most of us belongs to the first two kinds. I am definitely trying and hoping to be an Authoritative style mom who will teach my children lifelong skills. Well but I guess at some occasions, we will still switch from one to another unknowingly.


Liked I mentioned case studies: I would name you some examples of my Authoritative parenting style. 

Case 1: Expecting guests at home


If you know me, I am a teacher of some sort thus I tend to speak alot (of my mind that is). Thus I would usually "prepare" Isa before some guests arrive at our place. So before the gathering today, I had already pre-empt my big boy about my friends and their children. He, as usual, will bombard me with questions: 

Isa: What are their names? And how old are they? 
Me: There are some boys and girls, (tell him their names) and one of them is K1, just like you! 
Isa: (sounded excited) Really? So where does he study? (and goes on and on till bedtime) 


Me: So how do you think you should behave when my friends are here? 
Isa: Be gentle and kind. 
Me: How do you show them that you are gentle and kind? 
Isa: No throwing of temper and call (meaning greet) them when they are here.. and.. share my toys! 
Me: (heaves a sign of relief) 

Case 2: Window grills

Many of my friends asked me this question today: Why didn't you install windows grills in your house? You know, Isa is quite tall and he might stand near the window and such.. 

And my answer was quite firm: Why should I? 
(Pardon me for my cocky candid character) 

Then more explanations were given. I told them that Isa was educated from young that it is "dangerous" to stand near the windows. But I further explained that, the word "dangerous" was often ambiguous to children. Thus I would adopted a positive reinforcement way of telling him that it is alright to stand near the windows to look at who / what was there at the roadside but it is not alright to tiptoe and look over the window. I have full glass panels for living room so I would usually tell Isa to "look through" the glass rather than "look over" the windows panels. Isa understood. 

Another reason that I gave my friends was that it was all about educating the child to be adaptive rather than we adjust the environment to suit the child. In this case, I gave them another example. I do not and will not place any items (such as stools or tables) near the windows cos I believe in this: If you do not invite trouble, trouble will stay away. We can always foolproof our home, but can we foolproof other homes or even public areas? I really don't think so. 

Anyway to summarize my post today, I hope to stay as Authoritative as often as I can. I know it is not easy to practise what I preach but I hope in the near future to come, Isa and Dora will understand the "hardship" I go through. :) 

Thursday, May 03, 2012

Milestones..

Recently I have been feeling very inspirational.. to write that is. If you know me, I am a person who is the A typical one who usually will go around with a pen (at least) and/or a piece of paper. Then, I usually have the habit of keeping a old school brown cover exercise book in which I will write "Connie's notebook" outside so to help me keep track of what I do/need.

But time has changed. I learnt that I had to dump my this old brown exercise book and start to learn to write in a paper-less and ink-less world. So I started blogging. I could not decide if I should start a blog just ranting stuff about myself or what not. Then I got pregnant. Guess that was my best motivating factor. So blogger became my best friend on a periodical basis. Technology was not so advanced then (Rather my knowledge of technology was not so advanced yet). Blogging means I must sit in front of that 14" monitor to type away my a typical day. Now it has become so convenient that I could just pull in an entry in less than 10 clicks on my iphone.

Anyway here are my (very proud) milestones of my (almost) 6 years of writings:

June 2006:

  • no kids (yet)
  • 16 June 2006 was the date to my first entry
May 2012:

  • mom of 2
  • typing my 416th entry

Now that I am grabbing the ropes of juggling my time to write. I will continue to provide you with snippets of my life.
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